What do I mean by small denials and is it really necessary? A few examples: getting out of the shower when I’m still a little chilly. Pausing for three full breaths before looking at the most recent text message. Choosing a different reaction to the trigger that always produces sarcasm, impatience, or anger. Responding kindly to my husband when my inclination is exasperation. Cleaning the bathroom with full presence and joy.
When I die to habits or deny simple cravings, just a few times a day, I rehearse for the most difficult challenges in life, the ultimate bad news, my own death, and that of others.